on gay marriage

A few minutes ago, OKCupid had a question about how i feel about “Gay Marriage.” I find the phrase repulsive. It’s marriage- period. Marriage is a legally binding contract that describes, among other things, rights of shared ownership and property. It is not a license/ contract that is contingent on mutual love, it is not…

today is difficult

Today is Thanksgiving. Today is difficult. I was so sure that i’d finally found someone that wanted to go the distance; to spend their life with me. She was someone that i was so sure i’d be with to watch her hair turn to silver, whose kiss i would receive every night, whose smile would…

aftermath | longing

I have lost my best friend. It’s the one phrase that echos through my day and evenings. It is the endless chorus whose words i understand but whose meaning i do not. I keep expecting to see windows pop up in my gmail. “Good morning, love,” “hi sweetie” or me asking how she slept- which…

aftermath | communication and honesty

As most of you now know, Adelle and i are no longer together. The aftermath has been difficult but sobering. My friends have helped me gain perspective— a perspective that i was missing because: It was Adelle who was my closest friend, lover and someone that just a few weeks ago, said she wanted to…

prologue to some announcements

Dear all, As some of you know and many of you do not, there have been some violent changes in my life. I am taking advantage of this time to make some of my own, internal changes, too. I’m going to make some announcements about another life that i’ve kept mostly secret for some time.…